Osho on Individuality

The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person — without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.

Love is not a relationship. Love relates, but it is not a relationship. A relationship is something finished. A relationship is a noun; the full stop has come, the honeymoon is over. Now there is no joy, no enthusiasm, now all is finished. You can carry it on, just to keep your promises. You can carry it on because it is comfortable, convenient, cozy. You can carry it on because there is nothing else to do. You can carry it on because if you disrupt it, it is going to create much trouble for you.

Relationship means something complete, finished, closed. Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues. It is a continuum. It is a verb, not a noun.

Why do we reduce the beauty of relating to relationship? Why are we in such a hurry? — because to relate is insecure, and relationship is a security, relationship has a certainty. Relating is just a meeting of two strangers, maybe just an overnight stay and in the morning we say goodbye. Who knows what is going to happen tomorrow? And we are so afraid that we want to make it certain, we want to make it predictable. We would like tomorrow to be according to our ideas; we don’t allow it freedom to have its own say. So we immediately reduce every verb to a noun.

You are in love with a woman or a man and immediately you start thinking of getting married. Make it a legal contract. Why? How does the law come into love? The law comes into love because love is not there. It is only a fantasy, and you know the fantasy will disappear. Before it disappears, settle down. Before it disappears, do something so it becomes impossible to separate.

In a better world, with more meditative people, with a little more enlightenment spread over the earth, people will love, love immensely, but their love will remain a relating, not a relationship. And I am not saying that their love will be only momentary. There is every possibility their love may go deeper than your love, may have a higher quality of intimacy, may have something more of poetry and more of godliness in it. There is every possibility that their love may last longer than your so-called relationships ever last. But it will not be guaranteed by the law, by the court, by the policeman. The guarantee will be inner. It will be a commitment from the heart, it will be a silent communion.

If you enjoy being with somebody, you would like to enjoy it more and more. If you enjoy the intimacy, you would like to explore the intimacy more and more. And there are a few flowers of love that bloom only after long intimacies. There are seasonal flowers too; within six weeks they are there in the sun, but within six weeks again they are gone forever. There are flowers which take years to bloom, and there are flowers that keep blooming for many years to come. The longer it takes, the deeper it goes.

It is so ugly seeing people going to the church or the court to get married. It is so ugly, so inhuman. It simply shows they can’t trust themselves, they trust the authorities more than they trust their own inner voice. It shows that because they can’t trust their love, they trust the law.

Relating means you are always starting, you are always trying to become acquainted. Again and again, you are introducing yourself to each other. You are trying to see the many facets of the other’s personality. You are trying to penetrate deeper and deeper into his realm of inner feelings, into the deep recesses of her being. You are trying to unravel a mystery which cannot be unraveled.

That is the joy of love: the exploration of consciousness.

And if you relate, and don’t reduce it to a relationship, then the other will become a mirror to you. Exploring the other, unawares you will be exploring yourself too. Getting deeper into the other, knowing his feelings, his thoughts, his deeper stirrings, you will be knowing your own deeper stirrings too. Lovers become mirrors to each other, and then love becomes a meditation.

Relationship is ugly, relating is beautiful.

From: OSHO: Being in Love: How to Love with Awareness and Relate Without Fear

Breathing in Love

Love is always new. It never becomes old because it is non-accumulative, non-hoarding.

It knows no past; it is always fresh, as fresh as the dewdrops. It lives moment to moment, it is atomic. It has no continuity, it knows no tradition. Each moment it dies and each moment it is born again. It is like breath: you breathe in, you breathe out; again you breathe in and you breathe out. You don’t hoard it inside.

If you hoard the breath you will die because it will become stale, it will become dead. It will lose that vitality, the quality of life. So is the case with love – it is breathing; each moment it renews itself. So whenever one gets stuck in love and stops breathing, life loses all significance. And that’s what is happening to people: the mind is so dominant that it even influences the heart and makes even the heart possessive! The heart knows no possessiveness but the mind contaminates it, poisons it.

So remember that: be in love with existence! And let love be like breathing. Breathe in, breathe out, but let it be love coming in, going out. By and by with each breath you have to create that magic of love. Make it a meditation: when you breathe out, just feel that you are pouring your love into existence; when you breathe in, existence is pouring its love into you. And soon you will see that the quality of your breath is changing, then it starts becoming something totally different to what you have ever known before. That’s why in India we call it ‘prana’, life, not just breathing, it is not just oxygen. Something else is there, the very life itself.

Osho, The Open Door, Talk #13

We eat very unconsciously, automatically, robotlike. If the taste is not lived, you are just stuffing. Go slow, and be aware of the taste. Do not just go on swallowing things. Taste them unhurriedly and become the taste. When you feel sweetness, become that sweetness. And then it can be felt all over the body – not just in the mouth, not just on the tongue, it can be felt all over the body spreading in ripples.

Whatsoever you are eating, feel the taste and become the taste. With no taste, your senses will be deadened. They will become less and less sensitive. And with less sensitivity, you will not be able to feel your body, you will not be able to feel your feelings. Then you will just remain centered in the head.

When drinking water, feel the coolness. Close your eyes, drink it slowly, taste it. Feel the coolness and feel that you have become that coolness, because the coolness is being transferred to you from the water; it is becoming a part of your body. Your mouth is touching, your tongue is touching, and the coolness is transferred. Allow it to happen to the whole of your body. Allow its ripples to spread, and you will feel a coolness all over your body. In this way your sensitivity can grow, and you can become more alive and more filled.

Osho, The Book of Secrets, Talk #33

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Everything Converges in Your Being

Just sit under a tree. The breeze is blowing and the leaves of the tree are rustling. The wind touches you, it moves around you, it passes. But don’t allow it just to pass you; allow it to move within you and pass through you. Just close your eyes, and as it is passing through the tree and there is a rustling of the leaves, feel that you are also like a tree, open, and the wind is blowing through you – not by your side but right through you.

The rustling of the tree will enter in you, and you will feel that from every pore of your body the air is passing. It is really passing through you. It is not only imagination, it is a fact – you have forgotten. You are not only breathing through the nose, you are breathing through the whole body – from every pore of it, from millions of pores. If you are allowed to breathe through your nose, but all the pores of your body are closed, painted, you will die within three hours. You cannot be alive just by breathing through the nose. Every cell of your body is a living organism, and every cell is breathing. The air is really passing through you, but you have lost the contact. So sit under a tree and feel.

In the beginning it will look like imagination, but soon it will turn into a reality. It is a reality – that the air is passing through you. Then sit under a rising sun, and not only feel that the rays of the sun are touching you, but that they are entering you and passing through you, so you become vulnerable, you begin to feel open.

The ego is the barrier. When you feel you are, you are so much that nothing can enter in you. You are filled with your own self. When you are not, then everything can pass through you. You have become so vast that even the divine can pass through you. The whole existence is now ready to pass through you, because you are ready. So the whole art of religion is how not to be, how to dissolve, how to surrender, how to become an open space.

Osho,The Book of Secrets, Talk #53

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When: Every night, last thing before going to sleep. First thing in the morning.
Duration: 4-5 minutes.

Step 1: Imagine a Halo
“Sit on your bed and imagine an aura around your body, just six inches away from your body, the same shape as the body… surrounding you, protecting you. It will become a shield. Still feeling this, go to sleep, fall into sleep imagining that aura like a blanket around you, which protects you from any tension entering from outside, from any thought entering you from outside. No outside vibration can enter you. You fall asleep but that imagination will enter the unconscious and becomes a tremendous force and energy.”

Step 2: In the Morning…
“In the morning, the moment you feel that now sleep is gone, don’t open your eyes: just feel your aura all over the body protecting you. Do it for four to five minutes and then get up.”

Step 3: All the Time…
“Taking your bath, having tea, go on remembering it. Any other time during the day when you remember – sitting in a car or train or in the office doing nothing – just relax into it again.

“This [exhaustion] happens to many people because we don’t know how to protect ourselves. Others are not only there but broadcasting their being continuously in subtle vibrations. Somebody passes by and throws something [energy] at you: if you are receptive and you don’t have a protective aura…and meditation makes one very receptive.

“So if you are alone, it is good; when you are surrounded by meditative people, very good. But when you are in the world, the marketplace and people are not meditative but very tense and anxious, you start getting that energy. After mediation one has to create a protective aura. Sometimes it happens automatically, sometimes it doesn’t. If it is not happening automatically to you, you have to work for it. It will be coming within three months. Anytime between three weeks and three months, you will start feeling very powerful.”

Osho, Dance Your Way to God
(This title is no Longer available on Osho’s request)

Meditation of the week : Feel – Don’t Think

You are sitting in the garden, the traffic is passing by and there are many noises and many sounds. You just close your eyes and try to find the subtlest sound there is around you. A crow is cawing: just concentrate yourself on that crow’s noise. The whole traffic noise is going on. The sound is such, it is so subtle, that you cannot be aware of it unless you focus your awareness towards it. But if you focus your awareness, the whole traffic noise will go far away and the noise of the crow will become the center. And you will hear it, all the nuances of it – very subtle, but you will be able to hear it.

Grow in sensitivity. When you touch, when you hear, when you eat, when you take a bath, allow your senses to be open. And don’t think – feel.

You are standing under the shower: feel the coolness of the water falling on you. Don’t think about it. Don’t immediately say, “It is very cool. It is cold. It is good.” Don’t say anything. Don’t verbalize, because the moment you verbalize, you miss feeling. The moment words come in, the mind has started to function. Don’t verbalize. Feel the coolness and don’t say that it is cool….

We go on saying things, not even aware of what we are saying. Stop verbalizing; only then can you deepen your feelings. If feelings are deepened, then this technique can work miracles for you.

Feel: my thought

Close your eyes and feel the thought. A continuous flow of thoughts is there, a continuum, a flux; a river of thoughts is flowing. Feel these thoughts, feel their presence. And the more you feel, the more will be revealed to you – layers upon layers. Not only thoughts that are just on the surface; behind them there are more thoughts, and behind them there are still more thoughts – layers upon layers.

And the technique says, Feel: my thought.

And we go on saying, “These are my thoughts.” But feel – are they really yours? Can you say “my”? The more you feel, the less will it be possible for you to say that they are yours. They are all borrowed, they are all from the outside. They have come to you but they are not yours. No thought is yours – just dust gathered. Even if you cannot recognize the source from where this thought has come to you, no thought is yours. If you try hard, you can find from where this thought has come to you.

Only the inner silence is yours. No one has given it to you. You were born with it, and you will die with it. Thoughts have been given to you; you have been conditioned to them. If you are a Hindu, you have a different type, a different set of thoughts; if you are a Mohammedan, of course, a different set of thoughts; if you are a communist, again a different set of thoughts. They have been given to you, or you may have taken them voluntarily, but no thought is yours….

If thoughts are not mine then nothing matters, because this too is a thought – that you are my wife, or you are my husband. This too is a thought. And if basically thought itself is not mine, then how can the husband be mine? Or how can the wife be mine? Thoughts uprooted, the whole world is uprooted. Then you can live in the world and not live in it.

Excerpted from Osho, The Book of Secrets, Talk #55
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Meditation For Busy People: Back to Earth

“It is one of the most prevalent problems for the modern man; the whole of humanity is suffering from uprootedness. When you become aware of it, you will always feel [a] wavering in the legs, uncertainty, because the legs are really the roots of man. Through his legs man is rooted in the earth.

“Once you understand a problem directly, it is already on the way to being solved. Now you have to do two or three things.”

When: Every morning

Step 1: Shifting Your Weight

“Stand on your feet, just 6 to 8” apart, and close your eyes. Then put your whole weight on the right foot, as if you are standing only on the right; the left is unburdened. Feel it, and then shift to the left foot. Your whole weight is on the left foot and you relieve the right foot completely, as if it has nothing to do. It is just there on the earth but it has no weight to it.

“Do this 4 to 5 times – feeling this shift of energy – and feel how it feels.

Then try to be just in the middle, neither on the left nor the right, or on both. Just in the middle – no emphasis, fifty-fifty. That 50-50 feeling will give you more rootedness in the earth.

Step 2: Run and Breathe!

“If you are near the sea, every morning go to the beach and run on the sand. If you are near the sea, run anywhere barefoot – no shoes on, just on the naked earth so there is a contact between your feet and the earth. Within a few weeks you will start feeling a great energy and strength in your legs.

“Also, start taking deeper breaths. With shallow breathing one starts feeling uprooted. The breath must go to the very root of your being, and the root is your sex center – so then there is a continuous massage of the sex center by the breathing. Then you feel rooted.

“Otherwise if your breathing is shallow and never goes to the sex center there is a gap – which makes you feel confused, uncertain, not knowing who you are, where you are going, just drifting. Then you will become lusterless, no life, because how can life be without purpose? And how can there be purpose when you are not rooted in your own energy?

“So first: grounding in the earth, which is the mother of all.

“Then grounding in the sex center. which is the father of all.

“Then you will be completely at ease, centered and grounded.”

Step 3: Stand and Shift

End your running repeating the instructions outlined in Step 1.

Osho, The Cypress in the Courtyard

Unwinding Before Sleep Meditation

Every night sit comfortably in a chair and rest your head back, like you do at the dentist. You can use a pillow. Then release your lower jaw. Just relax it so the mouth opens slightly, and start breathing from the mouth, not from the nose. Don’t change your breathing – let it be natural.

The first few breaths will be a little hectic. By and by your breathing will settle down and become very shallow. It will go in and out very slightly. Keep your mouth open, eyes closed, and rest.

Then start feeling that your legs are becoming loose, as if they are being taken away from you, cut loose from the joints. Then start thinking that you are just the upper part of your body; the legs are gone.

Then the hands – think that both the hands are not becoming loose and being taken away from you. You are no more your hands – they are dead, taken away.

Then start thinking about the head – that it is being taken away, that you are being beheaded. Leave it loose: wherever it turns, right, left, you cannot do anything. Just leave it loose; it has been taken away. Then you have just your torso. Feel that you are only this much – this chest, the belly, that’s all.

Do this for at least twenty minutes, just before you go to sleep. And do it for at least three weeks.

Osho, This Is It
(This title is no longer available at Osho’s request)

Put Your Awareness on the Spine

Close your eyes and visualize your backbone. Let the backbone be straight, erect. Visualize it, see it, and just in the middle of it visualize a nerve, delicate as the lotus thread, running in the center of your spinal column.

In the spine, just in the center, there is a silver cord – a very delicate nerve. It is not really a nerve in the physiological sense. If you operate to find it; it will not be there. But in deep meditation it is seen. Through that thread you are related to the body, and through that thread also you are related to your soul.

First, visualize the spine. At first you will feel very strange, you will be able to visualize it, but as an imagination. And if you go on endeavoring, then it will not be just your imagination. You will become capable of seeing your spinal column.

Man can see his own body structure from within. We have not tried it because it is very, very fearful, loathsome: because when you see your bones, blood, veins, you become afraid. So really, we have completely blocked our minds from seeing within. We see the body from without, as if someone else is looking at the body. It is just as if you go outside this room and look at it – then you know the outer walls. Come in and look at the house – then you can look at the inner walls. You see your body from outside as if you are somebody else seeing your body. You have not seen your body from inside. We are capable of it, but because of this fear it has become a strange thing.

Indian yoga books say many things about the body, which have been found to be exactly right by new scientific research, and science is unable to explain this. How could they know? Surgery and knowledge of the inside of the human body are very recent developments. How could they know of all the nerves, of all the centers, of all the inner structures? They knew even about the latest findings; they have talked about them, they have worked upon them. Yoga has always been aware about all the basic, significant things in the body. But they were not dissecting bodies, so how could they know? Really, there is another way of looking at your own body – from within. If you can concentrate within, suddenly you begin to see your body – the inner lining of the body.

Close your eyes and feel your body. Relax. Concentrate on the spinal column. And this sutra says very simply, in such be transformed. And you will be transformed through it.

Osho, The Book of Secrets, Talk #9

Meditation for Busy People Neutral Gear

I find it difficult to work and meditate each day. It is easier to work a lot, then spend some time meditating.

“You don’t understand the mechanism. In fact, one should continuously change, because the brain has many centers. For example, if you do mathematics, then a certain part of the brain functions and the other parts rest. Then you read poetry: then that part that was functioning in mathematics rests and the other part starts functioning. That’s why in universities and the schools we change periods — every 40 minutes, 45 minutes — because each center of the brain has a capacity to function for 40 minutes. Then it feels tired and needs a rest, and the best rest is to change the work so that some other center starts working and one relaxes. So continuous change is very very good; it enriches you.

“I understand the difficulty: you do a thing and the mind becomes obsessed, you go mad after it. But that’s bad; one should not become so possessed. While doing it, become absorbed, but always remain a master; otherwise you will become a slave. And slavery is not good. Even slavery to meditation is not good. If you can’t stop doing a certain thing, or you only stop very reluctantly, that simply shows that you don’t know how to change the gears of the mind.

“So do one thing… Whenever you are doing something…for example, you are meditating and now you want to do something else.

After you stop meditating, for 5 minutes simply exhale deeply, as possible. Then let the body inhale, don’t you inhale. Have a feeling that you are throwing out everything that was in the mind and in the body and in the system. Do this for just 5 minutes, then start doing some other work, and immediately you will feel you have changed.

“You need the neutral gear for 5 minutes. If you change gear in a car, the gear has to first move to neutral — even if just for a single moment, but it has to move. The more efficient the driver, the faster he can move from neutral. So give 5 minutes to the neutral gear. You are not working at anything…just breathing, just being. Then by and by you go on dropping: after one month, 4 minutes; after 2 months, 3 minutes. Then by and by there will come a point where just one exhalation is enough and you are finished with the work — closed, a full stop — and then you start other work.”

Osho, Hammer on the Rock, Talk #3

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